This is what Dina Bonnevie shared months after losing her husband.
Six months after saying goodbye to her husband, seasoned actress Dina Bonnevie shares what she learned after the painful loss.
Early this year, Dina Bonnevie’s husband, Deogracias Victor “DV” Savellano, died at the age of 65. They got married in 2012, and their love happened at the most unexpected time of her life.
DV Savellano was an undersecretary in the Department of Agriculture (DA), and he was the governor of Ilocos Sur then, when they met and fell in love.
He was 65 years old, and Savellano died due to an abdominal aneurysm.
Losing a husband is a profound and deeply personal grief. It is not just about absence, it is about the loss of shared life and dreams. It is losing both routines and sharing major life milestones with.
In the past months, Dina admitted to aching about her husband’s absence. She could feel him everywhere, and she could hear sounds she used to hear that he made, but the loneliness that comes with being alone always gets in.
Six months into the loss, she spoke to ABS-CBN News and shared what she learned when she lost him. According to her, with his loss went her belief in forever. His death convinced her that nothing really lasts forever.
She used to believe that she would no longer settle down with anyone, and her children feared she would grow old alone, but he came and changed everything. He was the man her children wanted for her.
“I was dreaming na, of course, we’re gonna grow all together. And I remember, we were talking, kami ng asawa ko, sabi ko, ‘Gusto ko mauna ako (to die first). Ayokong maiwan mo ‘ko.’”
“Sabi niya, ‘Hindi. Gusto ko mauna ako. Ayokong maiwan mo ‘ko.’ Then sabi niya, ‘Sige. Sabay tayo.’
Now that he’s gone, she realized who’s going to take care of her when she becomes old. She was living alone, and it made her sad every time she went home without anyone to go home to.
She would occasionally imagine him cooking, looking after the turtles, whistling, and walking around the village. The loss has put so much weight on her heart and spirit. There was a time when all she could ever do was just cry and ask God why He had to take her husband away so soon, but later on, she realized no one can question God’s plans.
“Tinanggap ko. Nag-grieve ako. I gave myself time to grieve. And then I said, it’s about time I pick up the pieces and do something,” she added.
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