Mothers are really particular of what their children are doing, and when they both know that they will end up fighting, but feels like none of them wants to, they end up arguing. Oftentimes, when things went wrong, our nearest and dearest that we argue with the most, and most probably, that is your mum. Well, arguing seems to be irritating, but according to Child Psychologists in America, teenagers who argue with their mums are less likely to succumb to peer pressure and turn to drink and drugs.
In a study they conducted— with the behaviour of both teenagers – studied from aged 13 to 16 – and their parents, “teens who more openly express their own viewpoints in discussions with their mums, even if their viewpoints disagree, are more likely than others to resist peer pressure to use drugs or drink.”
They believe that arguments with mum, rather than dad, have the most beneficial effect as we’re more likely to use reasoned arguments when arguing with her than any other family member.
Experts say that it’s better to be honest and open – even if that leads to a row – than bottle things up, and those of us who are able to stand up to our mums over disagreements with a boyfriend or college work, are more likely to resist peer pressure.
The study concluded that “teens who hold their own in family discussions were better at standing up to peer influences to use drugs or alcohol. Among the best protected were teens who had learned to argue well with their mums about such topics as grades, money, household rules, and friends; and those teens who are secure in their ability to turn to their mothers under stress are less likely to end up feeling overly dependent upon close friends. Thus, they are less likely to be influenced by a friend’s behaviour.”
So, is it means to say that I will argue at my mum each of everyday? Well, it’s not sort of a reason, the findings suggest that having disagreements can help, the important point is the regular contact with a parent, and a mother in particular.
Good luck with your argument then! 😀
