Frustrated Mom Regrets Scolding Son Over Low Grades
A frustrated mom expressed her disappointment after seeing her child’s report card with low grades.
Recently, Sir Mark Valdez, a Facebook user, shared a post of a woman who shared her frustration and guilt after seeing her child’s report card with low grades. The post elicited various reactions from netizens.
The woman initially felt disappointed because she had been closely guiding her son in his studies, ensuring that he completed his school activities. Expecting at least decent grades, she admitted that she scolded him multiple times, hoping to make him understand the importance of education.
However, what she didn’t realize was how deeply her words affected her child. Her son, a Grade 1 pupil, later revealed that he had been praying every night, wishing to become smarter so that his mother wouldn’t get mad at him anymore.
Hearing this, the mother was heartbroken and immediately apologized to her child. She reassured him that being a good person was more important than having high grades.
Despite his young age, the boy showed kindness and maturity. He would often share his food with classmates who didn’t have any, offer help to those struggling with their schoolwork, and even dream of saving money to buy his mother a car when he grows up.
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These gestures made the mother realize that her son’s true intelligence was in his compassion and understanding of others. She acknowledged that grades are not the only measure of a child’s learning and growth.
Here is the full post:
“This was my son’s report card nito lang nagdaan na first grading. He is a grade 1 pupil. Haha! Obviously,di po ako natuwa at talagang nainis po ako.Napagalitan ko siya that day. I even scolded him the following day. Nasabon ko talaga siya to the extent na maiiyak siya. I felt so bad kaso kailangan ko ipaintindi sa kanya na mahalaga din ang pag-aaral although bata pa naman siya.
Please, don’t get me wrong sa pagiging OA or whatever. Nag-expect lang ako dahil nakatutok ako sa kanya sa pagtuturo at paggawa ng activities. I’m not aiming for high grades. Gusto ko lang yung decent na marka.
But you know what? Although makulit din siya at pasaway minsan. Lately, na-realize ko na meron akong intelligently different na anak. Paano ko nasabi? Siya kasi yung tipo ng anak na laging may ganitong senaryo…
“Mama, birthday ng classmate ko bukas. Pabaunan mo ko kanin tapos dalawang itlog, bibigyan ko siya para surprise.”
“Mama, alam mo yung classmate ko kawawa kasi wala siyang baon. Eh diba may baon akong biscuit tapos may 20 pa ko. Binigyan ko siya 5 para makabili siya soup.”
“Mama, yung classmate ko laging masakit yung kamay kaya sinulat ko siya sa notebook niya.”
“Mama, paglaki ko bibilhan kita ng kotse para di ka na mahihirapan samin ni Aki pag aalis tayo na tatlo lang tayo. Kita ko kasi hirap na hirap ka pag tatawid tayo.”
“Mama, maglaba ka lang diyan. Ako na bahala kay Aki.”
“Mama, mag-aalkansya ako para may pang-kasal na kayo ni Papa.”
— Naisip ko, bata ba talaga ‘tong anak ko? Parang matanda na nagkatawang bata lang. Pero meron pang pangyayari na nagpaiyak sakin. Yun yung nagkwento siya sakin about sa pagdadasal niya gabi-gabi.
“Mama, alam mo ba naiiyak ako habang nagdadasal ako sabi ko Papa Jesus wini-wish ko po sana tumalino na ko para hindi na nagagalit sakin si mama. Ang Bobo ko kasi e. Marunong naman na ko magbasa konti pero mababa pa rin grade ko.”
That broke my heart. Naiyak ako mga Inay. Omg! Di ko napapansin nagiging hard na pala ko masyado sa kanya. Nagsorry ako sa kanya kahapon. Humingi ako ng pasensya kung lagi ko siyang napapagalitan. Gusto ko lang naman siyang lumaki ng tama at may values. Sinabi ko pa na okay lang kahit hindi mataas grades niya basta maging mabuting bata lang siya masaya na ko.
Ang sagot niya, “Okay lang po mama. Mag-aaral na ko mabuti.”
I remember sabi ng Lolo ko. Huwag ko daw gawing basehan ang grades. Mas mahalaga daw kung may natutunan ba talaga ang bata. Siguro nag-expect lang ako sa kanya kasi noon sobrang taas ng mga grades ko.
Sa mga wisdom ng anak ko ngayon, masasabi ko siguro naman lalaki siyang mabuting tao. Proud ako kasi bata pa siya, malalim na ang level of understanding niya.
Sorry medyo napahaba. I just want to share to all that our child’s mental health is more important than their grades.Let them enjoy the phase of learning.”
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