If cheating was involved, here are the useful Moving On Tips
Moving On Tips – It is indeed a devastating feeling and the world seems to be shattering when your partner cheats on you but moving on from that chapter of your life is a must.
A romantic relationship can bring a different kind of happiness in the life of a person. However, the complete opposite happens when a breakup occurs and worse, when it is because of cheating.
Getting cheated on can be so detrimental to the emotional and mental state of a person. For some people, this can be a hard situation to process. For other people outside the scenario watching this situation, the actions of a person mending a broken heart from a cheating partner can be unreasonable.
In an interview with Philstar Life, psychologist Riyan Portuguez said that is just normal and valid when a person who got cheated on feels the pain and gets angry. It is because pretending to be fine will make it more difficult to move on.
It is also important for a person to have a strong support system while mending a broken heart. Talking to other people can help process the breakup.
The psychologist also said that there is nothing wrong with seeking a professional because a person who got cheated on would sometimes lose their self-esteem, experience mental illnesses, and worse resort to self-harm.
Portuguez also pointed out that comments like “Marami pa namang iba diyan” and “Mag-move on ka na lang” would add to the pain that brokenhearted people feel.
The psychologist stressed that those who got cheated on should not stay in a relationship and suffer even though they love their partners. “Oo, mahal mo nga, kaso dini-disrespect ka na, walang changes sa behavior, di marunong mag-sorry,” she said.
Although it is easier said than done, the psychologist pointed out the importance of pursuing one’s interests and hobbies after a breakup to divert attention. The pain will not go away easily but these activities can help you manage it.
If the person who got cheated on believes in second chances, she said, “May iba natatakot na baka pag lumayo sila, feeling nila tuluyan na silang iiwan. Kung ganoon man at nakahanap na agad ng iba, ibig sabihin lang noon ay ‘di siya tama para sa iyo.”
Portuguez does not advise getting back to the person who cheated on you and brought a significant of pain in your life. She said that you must think multiple times and be sure that you really love the person or you just love the idea of love.
If the one who cheated wants a reconciliation, the psychologist said he or she should acknowledge the problem – the cheating. “The best apology, really, is to change for the better. They cannot expect their partner to go back to them after what they did. Kung kutyain man sila ng iba, kailangan din nilang tanggapin iyon,” Portuguez said.